Your Perfect 10 (Part 1)

How to make your first time with her unforgettable… in a good way.


Words by Chin Poh Nee.


While we all like to brag that we’re men of the world, that first time with your new girl – or even the first time – can induce nightmares of fumbling, clumsiness or… a wrong insertion. Now factor in the point that the woman standing in front of you, naked and willing is a keeper.

Put away those jangling nerves for good and show her that you too are for keeps. Dr Martha Lee, clinical sexologist, owner of Eros Coaching Pte Ltd and MH sex adviser, shares 10 tips on making your first time with that someone special perfect.


Tip #1: Make sure you have spare rubber in your drawer

There’s no such thing 100% safe sex, but you can still keep your little brother clean and disease-free. “Women are at least two times more likely to contract a sexually transmitted infection (STI) than men, so it’s up to the both of you to take a proactive interest in your sexual health,” says Dr Lee.


Tip #2: Be realistic

If you give a woman something expensive as a first gift, her expectations will just keep getting higher. “Sex usually improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other’s bodies,” explains Dr Lee. She continues, saying that the first time is usually not as mind blowing as you would imagine. So don’t feel pressured to make it the best night ever. Think of it as the first of many wild nights to come.


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Tip #3: Communication is the key

“Don’t assume that she likes what you’re doing just because she doesn’t protest,” advises Dr Lee. She most likely won’t comment if you don’t ask for fear of bruising your ego. So ask her if it feels good. The more you please her, the better the sex will be.


Tip #4: Compliment, compliment, compliment

Nothing makes a woman feel more appreciated than being complimented, especially when she’s baring her all to you. The tip here is to be genuine, not sleazy. “Tell her what you genuinely feel is beautiful and sexy about her,” advises Dr Lee. If you’re unsure of how to start, a simple “I like your…because it’s…” should suffice.


Tip #5: With her anxieties calmed, so should yours

If your mind is shouting to you about that paunch hanging from your belly, or how you may not be big enough for her, it might disrupt your performance in bed. “Mirror her breathing and you will soon find yourself coming back to the present instead of being caught up with thoughts of inadequacy,” says Dr Lee.


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